This year, I’m turning 30. It’s a milestone birthday! But I’m also facing the fact that I’m almost 30 and still living at home with my parents. I’ve moved out twice – once was while I was at university and the second time was when I moved to London for work – but I never felt settled and always ended coming back home to Mum and Dad. Luckily, we’re a very close family and we all get on well… most of the time. In Italian families, it’s normal to stay at home for longer, with many families even building extra storeys on their houses to accommodate each generation. But I can’t deny that this is not where I imagined I’d be when turning 30.
When I was younger, I imagined growing up to do a job I love and being successful at it, climbing the career ladder and supporting myself. I always dreamed of getting married and having children, and setting up home with a family of my own. But life throws all sorts of curveballs your way, and it hasn’t all panned out like that for me yet.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not miserable. Far from it! I have a great job which I really enjoy. I’m surrounded by brilliant friends and have a loving and supportive family. I can do whatever I want, with whoever I want, and go wherever I want. I’m completely independent. But I never liked the idea of living alone, and for quite a long time, that has put me off taking the plunge to buy my first home as I worried about feeling lonely, isolated and miserable. I like my own space, but I love having company too, and I was finding these conflicting needs hard to deal with. On top of all that, like many young people, I wanted adventure and I wanted to travel and see the world rather than being saddled down with a mortgage.
But now, I’ve decided the time is right for me and I’ve started looking for a house to buy and turn into my very own home. It’s exciting and nerve-wracking, but the penny has finally dropped and I’ve realised that living on my own can be whatever I want it to be. It doesn’t have to be lonely – it can be liberating. It doesn’t have to be boring – it can be exciting. It doesn’t even have to be forever – but I plan to make the best of it while I can!
It doesn’t really have anything to do with turning 30 this year. I think age is just a number. But instead, the most important thing is that I’m doing this at my own pace and when the time is right in my life. Forget about everyone else. They’re living their own lives and following a completely different journey to me, so it’s time to stop comparing myself with others and carve my own path. I’ve worked hard to save up for a house and I’m proud that I can do it on my own. I’m excited to find a house that I can turn it into a home that reflects me, and I’m going to do it all in my own unique way.
So, if you’re in a similar situation and find you’re comparing yourself with others, just remember, you can live your life any way you want. There is no right and wrong as long as you do what makes you happy! Society and circumstances have changed over the years, and there is no mould we have to conform to anymore. It’s time to scrap society’s expectations for reaching certain milestones in your life and start living at your own pace.